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Bible Study Tips:
1) Make sure you are ready? This means that you must be serious about dealing with YOU! You must be willing to put in the work in order to get the results? Do not half way listen or listen but not answer the questions but do the homework whether you turn it in or not. The bible states that faith without works is dead being alone.
2) Ask yourself why am I taking this course? Ladies, you have to be willing to face yourself and say that enough is enough, I am tired of going through the same thing over and over again. Same script different cast and I am getting older! Taking this course requires that you be honest with yourself!
3) Put in the time - You have to make time for yourself. This is not something that will happen over night. You have to know and understand that you have been dealing with this for a very long time, whatever your this is, some of you can go back as far as to childhood, or broken or unhealthy relationships throughout the course of your life.
4) Tell yourself the truth - You have to be willing to put yourself on the witness stand and give yourself the cold hearted facts about your decision making. What made you do it? Why are you not moving forward, etc? Do you want to keep dreaming of what could or should happen instead of dealing with the reality?
5) Do not give these easy, political, religious answers - We don't want to tell the truth about ourselves because we are still hiding behind the mask because if I look at what I really did, or who I really am then I will not like myself. You can not heal what you do not confront. Stop throwing in scriptures as an answer to not deal with you! You are not taking this bible study to see that God is good (because we know He is!) but rather you want His goodness, promise, and purpose to manifest in your life. God told the children of Israel that He was going to take them into the Promise land but because of their self- perception many of them died in the wilderness of their life. So, yes you can see it, dream it, continue to say it, but if you don't move into it, it is not going to happen.
6) Dig Deep - When you are answering the questions dig deep. Stop giving these surface or one word answers. Stop being short with yourself. The problem with the children of Israel is that when God took them out of Egypt, He was then trying to get Egypt out of them but they were stuck in the familiar and desired bondage more thant they desired freedom and what was suppose to be an 11 day journey turned into 40 years. How long have you been in this condition? I wonder if God has removed you out of the relationship but is the relationship still in you. Still talking about who left you, what they did too you. Are you holding on to the pain? Here's a good example, on yesterday I found myself talking about something and someone who is no longer around and afterwards I asked myself, 'Girl, what's wrong with you, why are you talking about that, until I found myself praying to the Lord about what was, instead of what is or what is to come!' (more in tomorrow's article) lol
7) Stop making excuses - I can not express to you enough that every time you make an excuse as to why you shouldn't then another day passes by where you are still stuck living in your past, and living with regret, anger, unforgiveness, and pain. Stop medicating yourself (shopping, sex, drugs, alcohol, pain pills) this is not healing you it's hurting you!
8) Do the assignments - When you do them they help you in the process of healing. Ladies, I want you to understand that there is a difference in being alone and being alone allowing God to heal you. I am not talking about just being single. I am talking about that even when the situation is over, the person is gone, and you have moved on that the residue from that situation or circumstance still lives on. This can be for any woman whether married or single.
9) Looking for the cure - Marriage, getting married, or looking for love is not a cure for low self-esteem and neither will it stop you from dreaming or from fulfilling your purpose unless you somehow believe that this was the cure. Stop looking for people and look to God. It's amazing how as women we have answers for everyone else but when it comes to ourselves we fall short. We are always trying to talk about what men are not doing and how they need to do what God has called them to do . . .as though we are God. Reality check we are not GOD! Stop trying to be his pastor, mother, wife (when you are not), banker, financial advisor, counselor, judge, jury, and deliverer. STOP!!!
I pray that these tips will enlighten you. I truly want to see you healed and walking in total victory. I am not here to judge you. . .for I am YOU!
Beautifully Speaking,
Sonya
1) Make sure you are ready? This means that you must be serious about dealing with YOU! You must be willing to put in the work in order to get the results? Do not half way listen or listen but not answer the questions but do the homework whether you turn it in or not. The bible states that faith without works is dead being alone.
2) Ask yourself why am I taking this course? Ladies, you have to be willing to face yourself and say that enough is enough, I am tired of going through the same thing over and over again. Same script different cast and I am getting older! Taking this course requires that you be honest with yourself!
3) Put in the time - You have to make time for yourself. This is not something that will happen over night. You have to know and understand that you have been dealing with this for a very long time, whatever your this is, some of you can go back as far as to childhood, or broken or unhealthy relationships throughout the course of your life.
4) Tell yourself the truth - You have to be willing to put yourself on the witness stand and give yourself the cold hearted facts about your decision making. What made you do it? Why are you not moving forward, etc? Do you want to keep dreaming of what could or should happen instead of dealing with the reality?
5) Do not give these easy, political, religious answers - We don't want to tell the truth about ourselves because we are still hiding behind the mask because if I look at what I really did, or who I really am then I will not like myself. You can not heal what you do not confront. Stop throwing in scriptures as an answer to not deal with you! You are not taking this bible study to see that God is good (because we know He is!) but rather you want His goodness, promise, and purpose to manifest in your life. God told the children of Israel that He was going to take them into the Promise land but because of their self- perception many of them died in the wilderness of their life. So, yes you can see it, dream it, continue to say it, but if you don't move into it, it is not going to happen.
6) Dig Deep - When you are answering the questions dig deep. Stop giving these surface or one word answers. Stop being short with yourself. The problem with the children of Israel is that when God took them out of Egypt, He was then trying to get Egypt out of them but they were stuck in the familiar and desired bondage more thant they desired freedom and what was suppose to be an 11 day journey turned into 40 years. How long have you been in this condition? I wonder if God has removed you out of the relationship but is the relationship still in you. Still talking about who left you, what they did too you. Are you holding on to the pain? Here's a good example, on yesterday I found myself talking about something and someone who is no longer around and afterwards I asked myself, 'Girl, what's wrong with you, why are you talking about that, until I found myself praying to the Lord about what was, instead of what is or what is to come!' (more in tomorrow's article) lol
7) Stop making excuses - I can not express to you enough that every time you make an excuse as to why you shouldn't then another day passes by where you are still stuck living in your past, and living with regret, anger, unforgiveness, and pain. Stop medicating yourself (shopping, sex, drugs, alcohol, pain pills) this is not healing you it's hurting you!
8) Do the assignments - When you do them they help you in the process of healing. Ladies, I want you to understand that there is a difference in being alone and being alone allowing God to heal you. I am not talking about just being single. I am talking about that even when the situation is over, the person is gone, and you have moved on that the residue from that situation or circumstance still lives on. This can be for any woman whether married or single.
9) Looking for the cure - Marriage, getting married, or looking for love is not a cure for low self-esteem and neither will it stop you from dreaming or from fulfilling your purpose unless you somehow believe that this was the cure. Stop looking for people and look to God. It's amazing how as women we have answers for everyone else but when it comes to ourselves we fall short. We are always trying to talk about what men are not doing and how they need to do what God has called them to do . . .as though we are God. Reality check we are not GOD! Stop trying to be his pastor, mother, wife (when you are not), banker, financial advisor, counselor, judge, jury, and deliverer. STOP!!!
I pray that these tips will enlighten you. I truly want to see you healed and walking in total victory. I am not here to judge you. . .for I am YOU!
Beautifully Speaking,
Sonya
